Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Victim or Survivor

There's no sense in denying it. Bouncing back from catastrophe is not an easy job. It takes more than motivational messages. It takes more than knowledge. It also takes the inner desire to bounce back. It takes the faith to believe things can be better for you. This is where almost everyone stumbles.

When you're heart has been broken by abuse, sometimes there's a tendency to feel like nothing is ever going to take that away. And, you're absolutely right. Nothing is going to erase the memory of your abuse. You have to learn to master that memory and control the pain. You have to take the power from the abuser. Nothing does that better than choosing to think differently about yourself. You cannot keep calling yourself a victim and think that you'll be free. Once you're ready for life to move on, you'll have to call yourself a survivor.

It's time for you to believe in yourself and in life again. Things can be better. Even if people don't change for you, you can change for yourself.

6 comments:

Samantha JHall said...

Caught you on Twitter just now. Enjoyed! Keep tweetin and postin. Got your book too.

Anonymous said...

Well, I still feel like a victim. It keeps happen and no one will help

The High Powered Woman said...

I think the fine line that divides is mindset. Of course, it's not easy to adjust either. It's even more difficult for men and young boys.

Anonymous said...

How do you get ovr it? I want to be free.

Tralyn said...

I've been trough so much that it just doesn't seem possible to not have it hanging over my head. Reading what you write does give me hope, however skeptical I may be. I do thank you for sharing your experiences and what has helped you. Yes, God can and will use everything in our lives to help someone else!

Lacresha on Writing, Women and Wisdom said...

Thank you all for the comments. Honestly, there's no one way to come to the place of healing except prayer and facing whatever it is that has hurt you. I find that the more I talk about it, the better I feel and the less power the pain has over me.