There's often an issue with counselors and others trying to tell a victim of any abuse how long it should take them to heal, how long they can be angry, or how they will NEVER get over the hurt. THE DEVIL IS A LIAR!
I cannot and neither can anyone else tell you how long you should hurt, how you will always be a victim. That's not another person's decision to make for your life. That is your decision alone. No one can tell you how long this process will take and indeed for some, it may take their whole lives. For me, bless God, it didn't.
Healing from abuse is not about rights or opinions. It's about truth. I have the right to still be angry if I want, but what good would that do? And so that is what I teach others. Why be angry for twenty years further destroying yourself? Why allow someone else to control you for that long? They are smiling and going on with life not considering you, more than likely. Why should your life stop at the place they hurt you? These are the questions we have to ask ourselves and answer for ourselves for our healing to begin. And regardless of what the professionals say, a victim is someone with an excuse to feel hurt and bitter. A victor is someone who has felt the hurt and the bitterness but chosen to live above it. Praise God. They have taken the power of their lives back from the abuser and chosen a higher path that sets them free- the path of forgiveness and self-awareness.
I can't say enough how important it is for you to invest in your own happiness by making better choices without the limitations of your past or of our society.